“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your LOVE and affection.” Buddah
February is the month of LOVE. It’s the time when people in relationSHIPS –spouses, mates, and side pieces-acknowledge and celebrate their happiness and LOVE for one another. But, what about those of us who are single and not in relationSHIPS? Is it the month of LOVE for us too? Absolutely!!! Even though we may NOT receive any over-priced roses or thigh fattening chocolate hearts, single folks deserve to be happy and feel LOVED too!! But how? Our happiness comes from SELF–LOVE. What is SELF-LOVE? It’s our ability to LOVE and appreciate OURSELVES. Do you LOVE yourself? You should!!! So for this week’s blog, let’s talk SHIP about the importance of SELF–LOVE!!!!
I enjoy a good relationSHIP show, and this weekend I got a chance to watch an episode of the TV One show, Life Therapy, where A.J. Johnson, a Wellness Life Coach helps people get through their past issues by teaching them how to apply SELF–LOVE techniques in their lives. It’s a good show. Each week, she reinforces the importance of SELF–LOVE and self-care. In this episode, a couple that had been married for 8 years, was pregnant, separated, and contemplating divorce sought A.J.’s help. During the show, they admitted that after only dating for 8 months, 8 years ago they married because she was pregnant. They both agreed that if she hadn’t been pregnant, they would have never been together. To have a male perspective, A.J. called in Spiritual Life and LOVE Coach, Kerry Pope to assist this family in finding resolutions to their problems. As I continued to watch the show, it became obvious that the couple’s biggest mistake was jumping into a marriage without having a strong relationSHIP with each other and their individual selves. As Mr. Pope continued speaking with the husband, he asked him, if he were to die tomorrow, could he honestly say that he would die happy? He answered NO. How would you respond?
Jumping into relationSHIPS believing that others are responsible for our happiness and LOVE is delusional thinking because that’s an inside job that ONLY we can do ourselves. Our happiness is not contingent upon anyone other than ourselves. Regardless of whether we’re single, married, or in a relationSHIP, we are responsible for our own happiness. It starts with us being happy just being us. Are you happy with yourself? Are you happy In your relationSHIP? Does your relationSHIP allow you to be your true and authentic self? If not, change it. Exercise SELF-LOVE. SELF–LOVE will help us build a stronger relationSHIP with the person who knows us best- ourselves. SELF-LOVE is not always easy because sometimes life’s circumstances can leave us feeling like we are not worthy or unloveable. But, that is far from the truth.
Despite appearances, GOD created us in LOVE and we are fully capable of both giving and receiving LOVE. So when we are feeling unworthy of LOVE, reposition that crown and remember that we are beautifully and wonderfully made whether we are single or in a relationSHIP. To confirm that notion recite your favorite scriptures and affirmations. This will help us feel good about ourselves and will enable us to share our LOVE with others. Every morning, regardless of how we feel, let’s wake up LOVING and affirming ourselves. Let’s create our own happiness. And if we need more reinforcement, wake up each morning and loudly sing Good Morning, Gorgeous by Mary J. Blige….that will certainly jumpstart our SELF-LOVE journey.
SHIP TALK: Do you practice SELF-LOVE? How?
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